As crazy as it sounds, I enjoy the thrill of it

​“My cousin posted a picture of me on Twitter and Alonzo asked her who I was. He was in the military and in a fraternity. I wanted to marry him the day I met him. He was so honest and funny and disciplined. He had it together – had his head on straight, and I loved that. 

“The only person I knew in the military growing up was my uncle. He served 20 years in the Navy. We saw him every other year and I knew what he did was important. But beyond that, I didn’t know much about it. Alonzo was in the Army and it was scary to me to be someone who wouldn’t be around and was going to be in danger. I knew I loved him though. My love for him was bigger than my fears. He always gave me just enough info; never too much to be scared. I trusted him, I loved him, and we are doing it. We’ve known each other since 2010 and since then he’s deployed three times. 

“As crazy as it sounds, I enjoy the thrill of it. We don’t know where we’re going next year, but I’m excited for the adventure. I think the hardest part for military spouses is keeping their identity, and especially during deployment. You’re so concerned and consumed with being your spouse’s backbone — their rock — that it’s easy to forget to be your own person as well.

“So many things are decided for you by the Army. Where you live, when your spouse is home, when you can go on vacation. A friend of mine went to the courthouse to get married because they were up against a deployment. I couldn’t stop thinking about how many couples do that — even your wedding can be determined by the military. 

“I turned 29 this year and had an epiphany. We were in Gatlinburg and I decided to start a blog and website, and event planning business. I started it because I saw a need for military couples to have easy and accessible event contracts so that even with a deployment or PCS, you can create a wedding of your dreams with an affordable budget and a quick turnaround. 

“I had my own business when I was 11. I had business cards and I sold painted pottery and beaded keychains, andI loved planning events. I still do. I’ve come a long way since I was 11. Starting a business has been the hardest and most rewarding thing I’ve ever done. There have been so many hurdles and obstacles, but at the end of the day I can say, ‘I have a company,’ and that is priceless.”

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